As human beings, we are highly impressionable creatures, easily influenced by our environment and upbringing. Our childhood experiences and the messages we receive over time program us, shaping our self-talk and internal conversation. We often develop a critical internal voice that tends to highlight our flaws and mistakes, rather than offering us compassion and support.

The problem is, we often fail to realize that we are in a constant internal conversation with ourselves, and that conversation guides our mood, mindset, and self-worth. The good news is that mindfulness can help us become more aware of this conversation so that we can avoid reinforcing negative patterns of self-criticism and perfectionism.

While self-love is all the rage in the self-development and therapy communities, we need to go beyond the idea of self-love and commit to self-respect. By cultivating an internal soft place to fall, an internal cheerleader, and a teammate, we can build self-respect and transform the lessons we learn from our mistakes into wisdom.

Language as the Law of Attraction

Over time, we can break the maladaptive, self-hypnotic patterns from the critical voice, the inner bully. We can create a self-loving relationship with ourselves that serves as the foundation for all other relationships. This is important because our inner dialogue has a significant impact on the law of attraction. We know that everything has a vibration or frequency, and the energy we emit affects the energy we attract.

For example, people struggling with depression and anxiety often get stuck in negative thought loops, thinking negative thoughts, feeling negative emotions, and doing negative things. This pattern keeps them stuck in the energy of anxiety and depression, focusing on what is missing or wrong in their lives, and perpetuating the negative cycle.

To break this cycle, we need to learn to become attractors of what we want and let go of stinkin' thinkin'. Focusing on what we don't want only gets us more of what we don't want, while focusing on what we do want attracts more of what we desire.

If you've ever experienced walking into a room after an argument and feeling the tension, you know that energy is real, and it affects us on a deep level. So let go of stinkin' thinkin' and become an attractor of what you truly desire. Don't just take our word for it, look back at your own life and see the patterns. If you're ready to break free from negative patterns and start attracting what you desire, start by casting your words wisely, because words truly are spells.

Healthy language is important for our well-being and our relationship with life. It is the internal dialogue that we have with ourselves that determines our attitude towards life. We must be intentional with the language we use to reprogram our minds to be positive and forward-thinking.

To find healthy language, we need to reverse engineer our emotions and find the messages that influence our mood. It is a process that feels funny and awkward, but with time and practice, it becomes easier. We tend to confuse our desires with our capability, and we need to understand that we are capable of handling anything that comes our way.

Positive Reframing

One negative self-talk we often indulge in is, "I'm so overwhelmed, and I can't handle this." Instead, we should reframe it into, "I can take a breath and do one thing at a time. I handle overwhelm all the time. I've got this." This way, we can affirm who we are and our capabilities.

Another self-talk is, "I'm behind in life, and other people are far ahead of me." This is damaging to our mindset and our relationship with life. Instead, we should reframe it into, "I'm right where I am, and where I am is good enough. I'm further and I know more than I did last year. I don't compare myself to others. I compare myself to my former self."

Let’s look at this one:  "Nothing is working out for me." This is a lie we tell ourselves when things go sideways in our lives. Instead, we should reframe it into, "Things are working out for me, and I am grateful for what is going right in my life. I will focus on the positives and attract more positivity in my life."

We must be intentional with the language we use and reprogram our minds to be positive and forward-thinking. It is a process that takes time and practice, but it is worth it for our well-being and our relationship with life.

The biggest step in positive reframing is to recognize our negative thoughts and beliefs. Once we've identified these thoughts, we can begin to challenge them and replace them with more positive ones. Let's take a look at some more common negative thoughts and their positive reframes.

"I'm not good enough." -> "I respect myself and my efforts. I am enough."

"I'm too emotional." -> "I feel what I feel. I am learning to release my emotions without judgment."

"No one cares about me." -> "I am important. I choose to be enough for myself."

By reframing these negative thoughts into positive ones, we can begin to shift our perspective and see ourselves and our lives in a more positive light. This can be incredibly empowering and can help us to build self-confidence and self-esteem.

But positive reframing isn't just about changing our thoughts—it's also about changing our behaviors. For example, if we're struggling with road rage, we can choose to use our time in the car as an opportunity to practice peace and calmness. If we are constantly raging in the car, we are teaching and training ourselves to have those negative emotions every time we grab the wheel. By making small changes like this, we can create positive momentum in our lives and start to see positive results.

It's also important to recognize that positive reframing takes practice. We've likely been telling ourselves negative thoughts for years, so it may take some time and effort to rewire our brains and adopt more positive thought patterns. But with consistency and commitment, we can create lasting change in our lives.

The key to positive reframing is to focus on the nuance of healing. It's not just about changing our thoughts or behaviors, but about finding the subtle shifts and nuances that can create profound change in our lives. By paying attention to the little things, we can start to build a more positive and fulfilling life.

By challenging our negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones, we can shift our perspective and see ourselves and our lives in a more positive light. With practice and commitment, we can create lasting change and build a more fulfilling life. So the next time you find yourself caught in a negative thought pattern, remember that there's always a positive reframe waiting to be discovered.

Upcoming Events

Recent Episodes:

Upcoming Events