How Early Childhood Trauma Shaped My Mental Health and High Sensitivity: A Deep Dive
Impact of Early Childhood Experiences on Mental Health
For a long time, it was believed that experiences from our earliest years, those before we form solid memories, were inconsequential. This convenient notion has since been debunked. Our early years, even those we don't consciously remember, profoundly shape us. I have no personal memories of some of my earliest experiences, but I know them through family stories—what I call "family law."
My Earliest Memories: Family Law and Trauma
I was given the Catholic last rites, the Death Sacrament, soon after my premature birth because it was believed I wouldn't survive. This sense of impending doom, even if I wasn't conscious of it, set the stage for my anxiety and sensitivity. Between the ages of three and six, I experienced events that likely contributed to my anxiety and potential PTSD, well before later traumatic events like being molested at twelve or my father’s abandonment.
The Shadow of Death and Fear
When I was three and five, my sisters were born prematurely, just like me. My mother’s best friend lost her baby to SIDS, which heightened the fear around my own health. I was born with underdeveloped lungs and a heart that would periodically stop. My early months were spent connected to monitors that tracked my breathing and heartbeat. My mother had to resuscitate me multiple times, a fact I know from family lore.
Being the Protector: A Role Too Heavy for a Child
The birth of my sisters added layers to my trauma. Both were born premature and spent extended periods in the hospital. Like me, they came home with monitors. I have fragmented memories of their alarms going off, signaling life-threatening episodes. These frequent alarms disrupted my sleep and instilled a constant state of fear and vigilance in me.
From a young age, my mother hyped me up about being the eldest sibling. She instilled in me a sense of responsibility and protection over my sisters. I embraced this role with a big heart, but it also meant I carried the weight of their survival. I was often the first to respond to their alarms, sometimes even before my mother. This role was too heavy for a child and undoubtedly impacted my developing mind and body. Witnessing my mother revive my sisters repeatedly took an emotional toll. I stood by, watching her perform painful procedures to save them. The constant threat of losing them created a pervasive sense of fear. My mom did her best under the circumstances, but the emotional needs of a child in such a high-stress environment were not met. My heart was big, innocent, and pure, but also deeply affected by these experiences.
Night Terrors: The Manifestation of Trauma
The end of the baby monitors coincided with the onset of my night terrors at age six. Night terrors are not just nightmares; they are intense episodes of screaming, flailing, and terror. My mother tried to soothe me, but her fear and my intensity often made things worse. My parents' separation and domestic violence added to the chaos, but the deep-seated fear from those early years was a significant factor.
Understanding Trauma in Highly Sensitive People (HSPs)
Looking back, I can now see how these early experiences shaped me. I was hard on myself as a young adult, blaming my anxiety and sensitivity on my personality. Understanding my early trauma has brought me compassion for myself. It's crucial to understand our past to heal and grow. My early experiences taught me to be constantly on guard, expecting something to go wrong at any moment. This hypervigilance became a pattern, impacting my psychological and biological development. It instilled a readiness to face death and hardship, which has both positive and negative consequences.
The Importance of Early Intervention and Therapy
Reflecting on my early childhood has been vital in my healing journey. Understanding the profound impact of those years has allowed me to cultivate self-compassion and resilience. Early intervention and therapy are essential for children who experience trauma. Recognizing and addressing these issues early on can prevent long-term psychological effects. Therapy helped me navigate my trauma and develop coping mechanisms to manage my sensitivity and anxiety.
Nurturing Mental Health in HSPs
If you’ve experienced similar early trauma, I encourage you to explore and understand its impact on your life. Healing is possible, and it begins with compassion and understanding. As Highly Sensitive People, we must prioritize our mental health by creating supportive environments and seeking therapy when needed. Practices such as mindfulness, self-care, and emotional regulation can also be beneficial.
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- Disassociation 4
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